Sometimes relationships can seem like a lot of work until you sit back and realize just how much you’ve been given. A thriving, healthy relationship requires some give and take, and is absolutely within your reach if you and your partner are willing to do a bit of work. If you and your partner are right for each other, all the work will definitely be worth it in the long run.
- Things You Must Do Independently
- If you’re bad at remembering things, write it down on a personal planner or calendar, and set up reminders on your phone.
- Commit to changing your behavior. If you notice yourself apologizing for the same mistake over and over, step it up a level. Tell your partner that you recognized this mistake keeps happening, and you want to train yourself to stop. Request help and ask for him or her to gently point it out to you when you’re making this mistake again.
- Review your expectations. Do you see your partner as a person, with both winning qualities and flaws, or as someone you expect to be perfect? If your expectations are so astronomical that no one could live up to them 100% of the time, you’re setting up your relationship for failure. Learn to embrace their differences. You can learn a lot from them.
- Accept that conflict happens. If you expect to be in a long-term relationship, you’re bound to have the occasional disagreement. Remember that one argument isn’t the end of everything, and there’s no person on earth that you’d agree with all the time.
- Always ask yourself whether you’re better off in the relationship than out of it. If you don’t think you’re better off in the relationship, then you probably should have a serious discussion with your partner. In a loving relationship, this question almost always gets a simple “Yes.”
- You can always ask “Are you looking for advice, or do you just want to vent?”
- Listening to your partner will enhance your relationship in many ways. It will help you resolve differences without arguing; let you explore each other’s personality more deeply; and even help you pick out an awesome Christmas present. There are no downsides to listening.
- Do something for your partner that you know they will truly appreciate. Whether it means getting up early to mow the lawn, taking the kids to karate, or baking that nutella shortcake, it’s often the little favors that say the most.
- Don’t be afraid to show physical affection every once in a while. Loving relationships feed off of the little kisses, hugs, and back-rubs that are mainstays of affection.
- Do the unexpected. It’s one thing to kiss your partner after you come home from work; it’s another thing to kiss your wife while you’re skydiving, falling 10,000 feet (3,048.0 m) from a plane. It’s the thought that counts, so put a little effort into it for huge returns.
- You should be able to discuss your sexual history. It is an obligation before you decide to be sexually involved with your partner. But you should make them feel safe and free from judgment, and you should expect the same from your partner.
- Do not ever spy on your partner (reading their phone, stalking them on social networks, following them around). If they are cheating on you, you will find out. These things cannot be kept secret for very long. But if you spy on them and they are innocent, you will lose their trust and respect forever.
- If you have a problem, you need to let them know—preferably in a clear and calm manner without any yelling or blaming. If your partner says `Are you OK?` and you answer yes, do not expect them to understand that you really meant no. Be honest and open.
- Let them know it is safe to open up to you about what they are feeling. Reward their trust in you by sympathizing with them and, but you don`t need to say much, just listen.
- Don’t let fear of losing them stop you from expressing your feelings, or spend every minute fearing the huge pain that might cause you. Enjoy each wonderful moment as it happens, and realize that there will never be another one just like it.
- A solid relationship should be based on mutual respect; if you are constantly trying to pull them down with you, this means you don`t respect them enough to want them happy. If you’re having serious issues with depression, self esteem, or mental illness, start seeing a counselor.
Keep sweet talking. A simple ‘Good morning Beautiful/Handsome’ would be an amazing start to your partner’s day. Send texts like “I miss you babe” when you miss them. They would definitely feel more loved.